Monday, October 24, 2016

Handling First Date Expectations and Having Fun on Your Christian Date

Have you been dreading your first blind date with Mr. Right because you were afraid of meeting Mr. Wrong? Well, we certainly understand where you're coming from. Going on a date with someone for the very first time can be very nerve-wracking and downright scary experience. However, you don't have to worry so much about making the perfect first impression or impressing the guy so much that he falls instantly in love with you. Yes, it would be nice if you went on a date, found out he were your soul mate and got married after a short while, in most instances, relationships take time to develop and your mission on a first date is to have fun. Be yourself focus on getting to know the guy to learn about common interests and then you'll see if you even want to pursue further dates with him.

When you first meet someone, it's OK to flirt and get acquainted with him but remember that a first date not a work interview! Don't ask him a bunch of questions about his past girlfriends or talk about all the awful things your ex boyfriend did to you during your relationship. Instead, focus on getting to know him, understand his likes and dislikes but be safe. For instance, on a first date, it is always better to give your date your mobile phone number rather than your household phone number. It is also best to meet in a highly trafficked public spot. To protect yourself even further, you can even ask a friend to accompany you or signal for a friend or relative to intercept the date if you feel uncomfortable. Apps like Who's Calling  Fake Caller Free  (for iphone) enables you to receive a fake phone call to get out of a bad date.  The call even includes fake voices. How cool is that?

Whatever you do, be yourself and talk about those things that matter to you on your date. Have light conversation but get your questions answered, too. For instance, if it's important that you only date a Christian or someone who goes to church on a regular basis, it is a good idea to bring that up in a conversation before you go too far. You can casually ask if they have a church affiliation, if they attend church on a regular basis, or other questions for that matter. Basically if there is a characteristic that is ultimately a deal breaker then find out about it during your first date. For instance, if you're allergic to cats and they have 5 cats then that would be a deal breaker. You'd want to find this out before you continue to date them.

Throughout your first date, you should have fun and be yourself but also be on the lookout for any bad vibes or signs. For instance, if your date's phone constantly rings or he gets a ton of texts then you should make note of that. Or, if a strange woman shows up and curses him out at dinner, you should also make note of that. In addition, if you feel really uncomfortable with your date, then use that as a gauge to not pursue the relationship further. Listen to your intuition. In addition, ask pertinent questions to find out if you and the person have some common values and interests.

In conclusion, it's never a good idea to rush into any relationship. A first date is simply that - a chance to meet and get to know someone. Use it to your advantage. Ask questions, have fun, keep it casual and be yourself. Then, you'll know if it's even worth going on a  second or third date.

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